Is Virginity a gift ?

Somethings need to leave my chest.

This morning was slow, one of those quiet ones where my thoughts wandered as my fingers mindlessly doom-scrolled through Substack. It was during one of those scrolls that I stumbled on a post about virginity. Something about it stirred me deeply. I felt the urge to grab my phone, find the perfect lighting in my room, hit “record,” and speak from the depths of my heart.

Me getting ready to defend The Faith on my snap story.

Because I believe purity, sexual purity ,is being misunderstood.

Misrepresented.

Misused.

Sexual purity, or being a virgin, is not something done for applause. It’s not a badge of honor to flash before men or society. It’s not a prize for validation.

It’s God’s will for man

1 Thessalonians 4:3 shows us that.

> 3 For this is the will of God, that you be sanctified [separated and set apart from sin]: that you abstain and back away from sexual immorality.

1 Thessalonians 4:3–4 (AMP):

It is consecration.

It is sacred. And it’s for both male and female. NO gender is exempt from this consecration .

📖 1 Thessalonians 4:4 (KJV):

> "That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;"

Emphasis on the ‘ every one of you ‘please.

It’s not a “girl issue” or something to weigh a woman down with shame. It is, at its core, an act of reverence to God.

Purity is not about feeling "cleaner" than others. It’s not about avoiding the label of being “dirty.”

It’s about fulfilling scripture.

It’s about obeying scripture.

It's about laying your life on the solid rock, Jesus Christ.

Sadly, I believe the world has strayed from the main focus.

Even some Christians are falling for one of the devil’s biggest Ponzi schemes, convincing us that purity is outdated, unnecessary, or even oppressive.

But let me remind you: sexual purity is a shield. A shield from the enemy

It’s a guardrail. It’s not born out of fear or trauma. It’s born out of reverence.

Deep, holy reverence.

Now, I need to address something that caught my eye in that post. The way purity culture has been weaponized, especially against women.

No, a woman’s worth is not tied to her virginity. Her worth is anchored in Christ. Her delicateness, her value, her future fruitfulness, none of these are determined by her sexual history.

Virginity doesn’t define whether she’s a withered flower or a bloom in process. Her purity is simply one expression of surrender not a measuring tape for her destiny.

While I read that post, the Holy Spirit whispered a scripture to me.

Matthew 24:10 AMP

[10] At that time many will be offended and repelled [by their association with Me] and will fall away [from the One whom they should trust] and will betray one another [handing over believers to their persecutors] and will hate one another.

Matthew 24:10 NIV

[10] At that time many will turn away from the faith and will betray and hate each other,

It made sense of it all, of the backlash, the hate, the subtle misandry often hidden under the name of feminism, the confusion and conflict around purity culture. It’s all just another tactic. Another subtle snare to draw believers away from their faith..

But no matter how loud the culture gets, no matter how “woke” the generation becomes, our standard remains the Word of God.

That’s our compass. That’s our foundation. That’s our truth.

It’s our determining factor.

Trust me to always to end with a song I meditated on when writing this letter.